Permission to Change

May 28

Written By Viola Mae

Guiding Question:
Am I allowed to change my mind?

You said yes.
You said no.
You made the best choice you could
with what you knew back then.

But now… something’s shifted.

And yet—
you hesitate.
You worry what others will think.
You wonder if changing your mind
means you were wrong before.

But what if it means
you’re listening now?

Changing your mind isn’t a failure.
It’s a sign of inner flexibility,
of wisdom that evolves.

But many of us were taught that consistency = integrity.
That changing directions is flakiness, not growth.

The nervous system may resist change
because it fears rejection, instability, or conflict.
This is where kindness matters most.

What decision no longer fits — and what’s holding me back from adjusting it?
Whose judgment am I afraid of if I change my mind?
What would it feel like to give myself full permission to choose again?

A Re-Choosing Ritual
Pick one small choice you’ve felt unsure about lately.
Say aloud or write:

“I chose this then, and I honor that version of me.”
“Now, I choose again — with new clarity.”

You are allowed to grow.
Your mind is not a cage.
It’s a compass — always pointing home.

You are not obligated to stay the same
to be trustworthy.
Your growth deserves permission, not apology.

What if changing your mind is how you return to yourself?

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